There are three levels of awareness that can be developed when recognizing gaslighting: the surface level, where you may notice indicators of gaslighting but don't recognize it as such; the middle level, where you become more aware of some behaviors but not all; and the deep level, where you are able to identify all aspects of gaslighting.
Here are a few tips to help you develop your awareness at each level:
At the surface level, be aware of how your partner might try to manipulate or control you. For example, your partner may try to make you feel guilty or ashamed in order to make you less resistant to their manipulation. Watch for signs that your partner is trying to manipulate or control you, and don't let them get away with it. You can get more info. about deconstructing gaslighting in relationships at various online sources.
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At the middle level, be aware of how your partner might try to isolate you from friends and family members. This could involve making sure that you don't have any opportunities to talk to people outside of the relationship or making ridiculous demands about who you can and cannot see. Pay attention to how your partner tries to restrict your freedom and control what information you learn.
Motives for Gaslighting
In this blog post, we discuss why someone might gaslight you and how to recognize it. We also offer tips on how to improve your awareness of the behavior and how to stay yourself.
If you’ve ever experienced confusion or uncertainty in your relationships, you might be familiar with gaslighting. This type of manipulation occurs when one person manipulates another by making them doubt their own memory, thoughts, and feelings.
The basic premise of gaslighting is to make someone feel like they are losing their mind. The perpetrator will try to create a sense of insecurity in the victim by creating false accusations, making confusing statements, or insisting on knowing all the details of the victim’s life.